With Thanksgiving just around the corner on November 23rd, you might be experiencing some anxiousness as the invites to gatherings start to arrive

If this is you, and you are feeling overwhelmed by the thought of being cornered by well intended friends or family asking you how you are doing, or how the “baby making” is going, then we have put together some strategies for you, to help you navigate your way out of that corner…

Set Realistic Expectations:

Understand that family gatherings may be emotionally charged, and it’s okay if you feel a range of emotions. Set realistic expectations for yourself and acknowledge that it’s normal to experience moments of sadness, frustration, or sensitivity.

Communicate with Your Partner:

Discuss your feelings with your partner before the family gathering. Make sure you’re on the same page regarding how much information you’re comfortable sharing with others and establish a plan for supporting each other during the event.

Have a Response Ready:

Prepare a response to common questions about family planning or children. It’s okay to have a polite yet assertive answer that deflects inquiries, such as, “We’re focusing on our health right now” or “We’re exploring our options.”

Seek Support:

Identify a trusted friend or family member who understands your situation and can provide emotional support during the gathering. Having someone you can turn to can make a significant difference.

Create Distractions:

Plan activities or bring games to distract yourself and others during the gathering. This can help shift the focus away from potentially sensitive topics.

Take Breaks:

If you start feeling overwhelmed, give yourself permission to take short breaks. Step outside for fresh air, find a quiet space, or take a walk to regroup and collect your thoughts.

Focus on Gratitude:

While dealing with infertility can be incredibly challenging, try to focus on the positive aspects of your life. Expressing gratitude for the relationships, support, and other aspects of your life can help shift your mindset.

Consider Skipping the Event:

If you feel that attending a family gathering during this time is too emotionally challenging, it’s okay to consider opting out. Prioritise your mental well-being and make decisions that best support you and your partner.

Connect with Others Going Through Similar Experiences:

Consider joining support groups or online communities where individuals or couples dealing with infertility share their experiences. Connecting with others who understand your journey can provide valuable support and perspective.

Remember, it’s okay to prioritise your emotional well-being and make decisions that feel right for you. Surround yourself with supportive individuals, and don’t hesitate to seek professional help if needed.

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