According to New York–based neuropsychologist Sanam Hafeez, Psy.D., asking questions can foster intimacy in a relationship because it creates an opportunity for deeper connection, vulnerability, and understanding.

“By asking meaningful questions and actively listening to your partner’s responses, you are creating a space for them to share their thoughts, feelings, and experiences with you. This mutual sharing can help build trust and can strengthen your emotional bond. Similarly, by answering these questions yourself, you are also opening yourself up to your partner and allowing them to get to know you on a deeper level,” Hafeez explains to mindbodygreen.

So, what questions do you ask? Here are a few to get you started.